Chivalry vs. Equality

I’ve grown up in a world where a man is expected to treat a woman “equally” (i.e. pay her the same wage, consider her opinion in discussions, etc) whilst treating her like a queen (i.e. paying for dinner, opening doors for her, etc). To be quite frank, this is complete horseshit.

Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton fought for women’s rights so that women would not be oppressed. I know the only joke funnier than women’s rights is Helen Keller (kidding obviously), but let’s be honest ladies, if you want respect then earn it. Don’t bitch about how he didn’t pay for you at dinner or how he didn’t start an unnecessary fight to defend your honor. I hope you realize if I pay for dinner and you come over and have sex with me (whether it’s oral, vaginal or—my personal favorite—anal), you’re an inadvertent hooker. So you think I’m cheap because I don’t pay for meals on dates; oh right I forgot the economy only affects women and anyone with a Y chromosome got a pay raise. Take your head off cloud 9 and come back to earth. Also, I am sorry I didn’t start swinging at some brainless moron for saying “Ayyy mami whatchu got unda dat dress. I was hopin’ nuthin” (note the spelling). There are many creepy guys out there and I shouldn’t be expected to defend you every time because someone decides to be a jerk. STOP being dependent on men; you’re way too young to be throwing your life out the door like that.

That being said, I don’t want women to think I am being an elitist or anything of that sort. There definitely are situations where a man would pay for dinner or get into a heated argument; all I am saying is you should not EXPECT it. Chivalry started in the Middle Ages when the only rights women had were cleaning, comforting and cooking. I promise you I can be chivalrous all the time if you promise that you’ll act like a woman from the 1300s.

This is not a two way street. You can’t have your cake and eat it. Your move ladies.



*Note this post is for people not in serious relationships. If you’re in a serious relationship it should already be going both ways. More importantly, I don’t expect this blog post to change millions of people—or anybody for that matter. Rather, I just want others to open up their mind and see the world in a different way, a Deeper way.*